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Thursday, December 21, 2006I think that's up there with "how are you feeling" during pregnancy as one of the most annoying questions.
Why? Well, two reasons...
1.) What the heck is a "good" baby? I'm sorry, I thought all babies were good. But apparently, if your child manages to sleep through the night super early or doesn't care if you ever hold him/her, or eats on a schedule from the start, they are suddenly a good baby.
I'm always tempted to say "No, I birthed the spawn of satan, he's an eeeeviiiil baby."
2.) They don't really want to hear the answer unless it's "oh yes, he's wonderful." I know this because when people would ask me that the first few weeks, I'd respond and say "he's a GREAT baby, but he's much fussier than my daughter was." It was the total truth, but you could tell they had no interest in hearing it. (Just like no one wants to hear about your 'roids or frequent vomiting or back pain while pregnant, they just want to hear that you "feel great!")
So why the heck do people say this? When did quiet, complacent babies get deemed "good" and what does that make the babies that actually require a little attention? Bad? Evil? Satan?
My friend Judy has decided that she'll simply respond "Well, she did get that tatoo..." when someone asks this about her newborn.
I like that line of thinking...
Perhaps my new line will be... "Oh no, we've already had to ground him twice and just last week we caught him trying to steal the car..."
Labels: All About the Kids