Comments on The Lactivist Breastfeeding Blog: A Point That Many Seem to be Missing...

:) You are fabulous. There are so many sites/blogs...

2008-04-26T18:01:00.000-07:00

:) You are fabulous. There are so many sites/blogs/discussions out there related to lots of baby-related stuff that make me MAD...not because of the subject, but because of the attitude.

I expected to hate your blog....and I LOVE it. There are so many people in so many different situations that we know nothing about and would never understand. Never ever ever judge...not the mom nursing

I'm just now coming across this posting but I was ...

2008-01-18T11:25:00.000-08:00

I'm just now coming across this posting but I was so happy to read it. When I was pregnant I was dead set on breastfeeding, when we found out at 20 weeks it was twins, I still kept that goal. Then they were born 7 weeks early and the complications set in. I pumped religiously, every 3 hours around the clock. My babies wouldn't latch and after having a LC continually shove my preemies' head

I really cannot believe some people. Yes breastfee...

2007-12-28T06:17:00.000-08:00

I really cannot believe some people. Yes breastfeeding is great. But it is not the absolute most important aspect of being a mother! I'm so f-ing fed up with the militant breastfeeders who choose to make so many women feel bad, when they've breastfed their children for longer than the vast majority of children in this country are breastfed. It's ridiculous. And above all, it is incredibly

Welcome aboard Amber! :)

2007-12-10T18:16:00.000-08:00

Welcome aboard Amber! :)

I just started reading your blog and this post has...

2007-12-10T17:50:00.000-08:00

I just started reading your blog and this post has committed me! What a fantastic approach that really shows, I think, how most women feel about BF!

Thank you so much!

I'm glad to see a blog that supports every mother'...

2007-12-02T19:57:00.000-08:00

I'm glad to see a blog that supports every mother's parenting choices. I'm glad you're here! I never wanted to breastfeed because I felt that doing it just wasn't necessary for my family, and I'm glad there are lactivists such as yourself that support me, no matter what my choice. Just as as I can choose to use my body to feed my baby or not, you can too! Why doesn't everyone understand that

Anonymous -You don't agree with or condone her par...

2007-11-30T11:31:00.000-08:00

Anonymous -
You don't agree with or condone her parenting decisions? So what? And if it's "not your business.." why are you bothering to come on and condemn her for her choices.
So many people, like Anonymous, want their choices to be respected, but they do not want to respect the choices of others. I don't get it. Where's the tolerance for different points of view?

As for

Great post. I will kep reading. I love your blog, ...

2007-11-29T10:38:00.000-08:00

Great post. I will kep reading. I love your blog, your openness to new ideas, our honesty, etc. I hate what others have said but am glad to see you overcome it with dignity and grace.

I've been reading Jennifer's blog long enough to k...

2007-11-28T22:28:00.000-08:00

I've been reading Jennifer's blog long enough to know that she has NO problem letting negative or unsupportive comments through. The only time to my knowledge she has ever deleted comments has been when they are outright trolling (as in vicious, profanity-filled, or racist, for example) or spam.

I think people need to stop getting hung up on those three little letters.

It's

I take that back. An exact duplicate of your post ...

2007-11-28T13:39:00.000-08:00

I take that back. An exact duplicate of your post above is sitting in my blogger account waiting to be deleted or go live.

My guess is you didn't realize there was a lag in posting and having them show up, so you resubmitted.

Would you like me to publish it to, or can I delete it?

Three points in response.1.) You wrote "Why choose...

2007-11-28T13:36:00.000-08:00

Three points in response.

1.) You wrote "Why choose to leave only the supportive comments visible?" You may be surprised to hear it, but I've posted every single comment that has come into this blog in the last several months. Not since the race war broke out have I screened comments and even then, I posted them after removing some choice word that have no business in a public forum.

If you don't need the affirmation then why put thi...

2007-11-28T13:28:00.000-08:00

If you don't need the affirmation then why put this blog entry out there? Why defend your self appointed title, "The Lactivist"? Why choose to leave only the supportive comments visible? I don't understand why you think that you are practicing "Don't offer, Don't refuse" when you've clearly stated that your son has a deadline and expressed your frustration toward his continued weaning despite his

Geeze. You gals sure know how to make someone feel...

2007-11-28T10:51:00.000-08:00

Geeze. You gals sure know how to make someone feel special.

That wasn't my intent in writing the post, but these comments are the icing on the cake of my certainty to keep blogging.

You write this blog for me! I wish you had been ar...

2007-11-28T10:23:00.000-08:00

You write this blog for me! I wish you had been around in 2003 when I had my daughter and for many reasons we couldn't get the hang of nursing. I exclusively pumped for 4 months until my supply dropped and I felt like such a failure! At the time,I tried to find info on EPing but there wasn't much out there. I started reading your blog when I was pregnant with my son, who is now 15 months. I was

Good for you, Jen.It's about time someone stands u...

2007-11-28T08:11:00.000-08:00

Good for you, Jen.

It's about time someone stands up for taking the pressure off moms who are trying to meet some artificial 'ideal'. From trying to pretend you ALWAYS have ultimate patience, ALWAYS are ready to jump for baby's every demand, ALWAYS are completely entralled with motherhood, to ALWAYS being glad you chose to breastfeed.

Women have far too many 'perfection'

You forgot to mention:You're here for Mothers that...

2007-11-28T07:42:00.000-08:00

You forgot to mention:

You're here for Mothers that need help when they are bullied by their very own Doctors and told to use formula when a Mother is ill and using particular medications.

Your help and emails (and in turn, contacts) helped me continue to nurse my child when my very own primary health physicians told me I couldn't.

I love your blog, I commend you for

You're here for me. No more babies, three time nur...

2007-11-28T05:11:00.000-08:00

You're here for me. No more babies, three time nursing loser, didn't even try with number four only to be put on medication so I couldn't change my mind. Pumped for ages with number one. Still regret a lot. Nice to know that others succeed and that there are so many people out there who care when you do.

Bravo.I never commented on "weanergate" because it...

2007-11-28T03:16:00.000-08:00

Bravo.

I never commented on "weanergate" because it seemed ludicrous that someone so completely unknown to you should have an opinion on your parenting decision, either positive or negative.

However, I'll post now and say that I think that one of the things that is holding back the lactivism movement is that some of our most strident supporters are (I think, inadvertantly)

thanks so much for having the guts to say that. i'...

2007-11-28T01:58:00.000-08:00

thanks so much for having the guts to say that. i've been so lucky that breastfeeding has so far been easy for me and my little one, but i've seen so many women struggle with it for all sorts of reasons. i think we can assume that 99% of the time, a mother wants what's best for her child, and if she's formula feeding or supplementing, she probably has a damn good reason. so let's reserve our

I am still getting over the one who said that if a...

2007-11-27T18:43:00.000-08:00

I am still getting over the one who said that if a woman isn't going to use her breasts for their intended purpouse (breastfeeding), then she should cut them off. Cut them off!!!! My stomach is still turning over 24 hours later.

I am a mom who thought nursing a one-year-old was ...

2007-11-27T18:35:00.000-08:00

I am a mom who thought nursing a one-year-old was beyond weird. Until I did it myself. And still, I honestly couldn't see myself nursing a three-year-old. Now I'm s-l-o-w-l-y weaning my 18-month-old through don't offer/don't refuse, and I totally understand what you're going through. I consider myself a lactivist even though I hope to wean within the next six months to a year, and I consider you

I agree with JK.I have always enjoyed reading your...

2007-11-27T18:24:00.000-08:00

I agree with JK.
I have always enjoyed reading your blog. I want to commend you on the way you've handled 'weaner-gate', as well as other issues covered in the past. You are a wonderful lactivist who has contributed greatly to the cause. And you offer great support to others through your posts.

You are absolutely right. I stayed out of the who...

2007-11-27T17:39:00.001-08:00

You are absolutely right. I stayed out of the whole weaner-gate issue because, it's NONE OF MY BUSINESS... It's your business. If you asked me for my opinion, that would be a different story (but I'd probably just tell you to do what YOU needed to do for you and your family as you know best).

I agree with your post completely. Breastfeeding ...

2007-11-27T17:39:00.000-08:00

I agree with your post completely. Breastfeeding isn't perfect for anyone. Breastfeeding is on the best day a delightful chore; on the worst day, a painful and draining obligation. My son is almost 16 months and I'm starting to feel like I'm done with nursing him. It has become an annoyance. I have had a pretty close to perfect nursing experience with him, but I don't know if I'm ready to

Jen, your so right. Any amount of breastmilk, be ...

2007-11-27T16:04:00.000-08:00

Jen, your so right. Any amount of breastmilk, be if only a few weeks to going a few months is awesome and amazing of any mother! They all deserve a big congratulations for going as long as they see fit. Breastfeeding IS difficult, and it's about time that mother's get appreciation for whatever it is they do for their children.